Tom Barthel Consulting

Parent Coaching

PERSONALIZED FAMILY ACTION PLANS

Tom Barthel works side-by-side with parents who have careers and businesses to help them achieve specific goals, whether it be to keep a teenager in school and prevent them from further drug use, or assist a young adult child to get completely off drugs and into employment.

Tom provides action plans for parents that
help motivate their teens and young adult
children off of drugs and alcohol, out of
criminal behaviour, and to overcome
mental health problems. His plans help
parents know what to do and how to do it.
What to say and how to say it, and when.
These plans are not based on opinion or
theory, which helps avoid controversy and
ideology. They are simply based on
observations of what 100 other families with
struggling youth have done, and on Tom’s
experiece as a former drug dealer and
troubled youth himself.


The Chinese symbol for break through includes three elements:
A sudden, dramatic, and important development.
Tom helps clients understand that a young person can be put through a sudden, dramatic, and important development.  Young people with troubles have breakthroughs all the time, and it  can be done to them on purpose.

Teens At Home:

Action Plans:  

  • Parents can follow an action plan of how to confront their teen with their problem set rules for what’s acceptable, and begin moving their teen towards a common sense understanding of life. 
  • Identifying your blind spots.

A Communication Blueprint:

  • Parents can follow a script for a communication with their youth, and have the youth relaize the truth of their situation.
  • Identifying where your misconnection with your child is.

Curfews, Chores, and School Attendance:

  • Parents receive strategies demonstrated by other families to resolve curfew defiance, complete chores, and attend school.
  • Bring to an end chaos in the home and disputes between spouses how to achieve this.

Young Adults Out of Home:

Chronological Action Steps:  

  • Parents can follow an action plan of how to transition that youth home, how to sort out money, resolving legal troubles, and getting off drugs.
  • Identifying the manner in which to offer and bring your child home.

A One-Time Communication Reset:

  • Parents can follow a script for a communication with their youth, and have the youth relaize the truth of their situation.
  • Identifying where your misconnection with your child is, getting one back, and having an adult relationship with them.

Household Rules Template:

  • Parents receive strategies demonstrated by other families to improve compliance, selfawareness, and youth engagement in counseling. Collection of Anecdotes

All Parents:

Collection of Anecdotes:

  • Parents receive stories from previous families with successes and failures, showcasing those parent’s actions, words, and outcomes, providing valuable insights to current parents with troubled youth.

All Action Plans:

  • All action plans have a system in place to motivate youth to attend counselling and/or treatment, employment and/or school

I was very pleased with the courses on the weekend and have begun some of the homework. My first task was to share some personal experiences with my daughter and her response was incredible. She began to open up to me and express some of her feelings. I have many tasks yet to accomplish on my homework and will keep you informed.

Susan P., Parent and Educational professional, Saskatoon, Sk, Canada

I just wanted to let you know that I feel we are off to a great start and know there are challenging and painful growth in our future, but it will be well worth it. Thank you again for great information. I will wait to call you as I would like to get farther on my homework so I can take full advantage of the 30 free minutes of consultation that you are providing.

Melinda N., Parent and Health care professional, Grand Rapids, Michigan, U.S.A

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